On 09/25/09 08:24, Jeremy "UncleHoot" Praay wrote:
>> And from you, unconditional support, no critiques.
>>
>> And as others have also said, have the supplies available to nurture the
>> interest.  (From my own memories, paper, reams of it, enough to swim in.)
>>
>> Use a light touch.  Even if it goes no where it will have been a part of
>> her life lived intensely.
>
>  From my memories, my Mom was always simply saying things like, "Wow, Jeremy!
> That looks great!"  That was nice.  My Dad, on the other hand, would often
> be more critical, but was also very supportive.  That was true, not just of
> my paintings, but schoolwork, sports, etc.  "That's great, but I know you
> can do better."  To this day, I really don't know if that helped me, or
> hindered me, or had no overall effect.  I'm sure it motivated me, but I'm
> not sure that it motivated me in the right way.  It's more heavy handed than
> I would like to be with my daughter.

	Along these lines, I suggest everyone really read:

http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/

	Actually, a similar article about the same research, which somehow got 
more popular on the net is the below:

http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=the-secret-to-raising-smart-kids

	A few years ago it was being passed around a lot, and I'd say it's the 
most non-religious/non-political article that I've received as a forward 
from friends. At the time, I wondered what all the fuss was about. The 
stuff in the article is common sense, and I knew it all: It being the 
story of my life.

	Well, apparently not many actually knew about it - and perhaps no one 
had actually researched it till now.

	The summary if you don't want to read it all is that parents should 
avoid praising intelligence, and should focus more on praising effort.

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